Admitting something about yourself can be incredibly scary, even if you have a outgoing personality. During the past few months I’ve been doing a lot of what I guess you can call “soul-searching”. As a humanist, I don’t really have a better term than deeply digging into my own emotions and feelings to learn more about myself. A couple of days I ran across this particular article and realized something very clearly about myself, I’m an extrovert.
Extroverts, like introverts need care — just in a different way. Like the author of the article, I have seen articles about how to care for introverts, and in my experiences, they have been incredibly helpful in learning more about my friends and family who are introverts. But, I wondered where that left me. Did extroverts need any care? Or because they were extroverts did they just have to get it themselves?
The were definitely a few points in the article that stood out to me and I definitely wanted to expand on them a bit and talk about what it means for an extrovert.
*Craving the company of others* This point stood heads over all the others to me. Just like an introvert needs time to themselves to recharge their batteries, many extroverts like myself find that being around people and in their company really recharges our batteries. People often ask me what my favorite thing to do is and I respond by saying “Hanging out with people.” And there couldn’t be a more true statement. I like doing all sorts of things, playing games, going out for dinner, bowling, seeing movies, etc., but for me, they exponentially more fun when I have other people around to share in the experience with. The energy of the people around me helps to recharge me so that I can keep being me.
*People assuming you are always confident* You will find that not all extroverts are confident. Sometimes we are (‘scuse the language), scared shitless of what we are doing. Most days you can find me psyching myself up for my next big adventure, and often failing at that. Most days I’m just faking the confidence so I can get through whatever I am doing next. I try to take each day at a time, but if you think extroverts are all confident, remember that we fake it a good deal of the time.
*You’re not allowed to be sad.* This is one that I’ve noticed recently. I’m generally a very happy-go-lucky person, but I’ve realized that I need to allow myself to experience other emotions in order to appreciate my happy, joyful and ecstatic emotions. Some people use sadness or anger as a mask, I’ve always used happiness. Sometimes I just need to be sad. It doesn’t mean I’m going to be sad forever.
At the end of the day, I’m an extrovert. I am generally happy and incredibly energetic, passionate and intense in who I am, but sometimes I just need to say it aloud. I’m an extrovert, and I need others. =)